Signs couples should look for in a relationship in trouble

All is far in love and war.What can that saying really be saying?Are they implying there may be something similar between the two?I can’t be too positive that it was the intended meaning, but there are a lot of things that are similar between the two.

The things that are the same I guess are when the two turns from love into war.There could still be love for the two of them, but they are usually in a battle like it is a war.  I have seen this first hand doing couples counseling San Diego.  A once loving couple is now fighting constantly.  It is my goal to bring peace to the two.And to bring back that once great love between the two.

So what are the signs of trouble?One of the huge signs to look out for is a lack of communication.  Or should I say lack of communication.For all relationships, being able to communicate is critical.Since it is crucial, if you as a couple are able to know that there is less communication, that is a sign.  It is a warning sign of trouble.  Whether I am doing couples counseling or as a marriage counselor in San Diego I see it all the time.  After all if you can’t communicate, every little thing can become a big problem.Being able to communicate effectively helps to prevent that.

So as a family therapist San Diego one of the biggest things I do is try to teach the couple how to communicate.One of the keys to unlocking the ability to communicate is the ability to listen.A lot of people when they think of being able to communicate they think it refers to talking.  But really if you don’t listen well, you don’t really understand each other.So by assisting the couple to learn how to listen better, it will greatly improve their communications.

By being able to spot this sign, a couple will be able to better know that trouble may be starting.Now if the couple can spot this problem early in their relationship, they might be able to avoid some serious problems. From what I have witnessed, the optimum way to solve some problems is to completely avoid them.  But if not recognized early, best way to solve them is to learn how to communicate.Sounds elementary but it can and will have a positive effect.